Make friends with people who want what is best for you


"Do not be misled : Bad Company corrupts good morals"~ 1 Corinthians 5 vs 33. Perhaps one can say I was fortunate enough to have a Sunday school teacher who constantly hammered this verse and its meaning into my head at a very young age. My teacher seemed to have understood the importance of association for human beings. Naturally one would go crazy if they were to be in isolation for a very long time without seeing or talking to anyone but the tricky part is you can also go crazy if you are surrounded by people and have been talking to them for a long time too. The important part now is to realize what kind of person you are dealing with and what kind of impact they have in your life.

When choosing our friends at a young age it is all about who you like and who makes you feel good or who is the most popular or the prettiest. Character is not yet an issue because everyone is still growing and still trying to find themselves. As we grow older we now realize that the criteria to which we choose our friends changes too and it is more important who we choose now than it was back then because now your association not only shapes your 8-1 primary school days but your entire life.

We have a morale obligation to not only take good care of ourselves but to also surround ourselves with people who want good things for us and will praise you when you do something good and stop you when you are doing something  bad.

Now the trick here from my understanding is to first of all know what is best for you to begin with and this will make sure that you can easily identify what is not good for you quickly and weed it out. Continuing to foster a friendship with someone who isn't really a friend is not only bad for you but it is bad for them as well because it would mean you are both going nowhere and you are dragging each other along. I have been told numerous times to associate myself with people who:

  • Are where I want to be either mentally, emotionally, spiritually or financially.
  • Support you and pick you up when you are done.
  • Find ways to propel you forward even if their own progress is not doing ok.
  • Are building something of their own and have a strong vision because that will be your wake up call to get your act together.
  • Are loyal to you especially when you are not around.
  • Would rather tell you the truth and risk losing the friendship than lie to you and pretend everything is okay.
  • Always think ahead and do not stop moving.

"Two are better than one for they have a good return for their labour. If either of them falls down, one can help the other" ~ Ecclesiastes 4 vs 9 - 10. Have a blesssed week and Thank God its Monday


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